How to Ace the ‘Tell Me About Yourself' Question and Set Yourself Apart
No matter how it’s worded or where you hear it, if you’re relaunching, you’ll be asked by someone to tell about yourself. It may be at a barbecue, an informational interview, a college reunion, a screening interview or a conference. Depending on the context, this question could be asked as:
- What should I know about you?
- What’s your background?
- How can I help you today?
- Do you work outside the home?
- Tell me in your own words, who is [your name]?
- Tell me about yourself.
Whether formally or casually asked, ‘Tell me about yourself’ is an opportunity. When you have an articulate, confidently delivered response that takes into account what the listener wants to know, you can distinguish yourself and make a positive impression.
Here are three points to help you prepare. (For convenience sake, all forms of Tell Me About Yourself will be referred to as TMAY.)
1. Prepare. Don’t wing this. Your response to TMAY is an important part of how you market yourself, just as your resume and Linked In profile are. It’s hard to come up with a good response to this deceptively difficult question on the fly. By preparing bullet points in advance that you’ve committed to memory and can tweak and integrate into conversations as appropriate, you’ll be ready.
2. Consider Your Audience. What a prospective employer wants to know about you is not the same as what your best friend’s spouse wants to know at the neighborhood holiday party. Don’t reflexively tell the person what you want to tell them. Instead, think about what they might want to know and make it part of your response.
- Strengths. For job interviews, make sure that the beginning of your response includes 2-3 key features about you that would be compelling to that employer. Here’s an example:
Q. Tell me about yourself.
A. I’m a career relauncher and project manager with 10 years of experience in pharmaceutical marketing. I’ve always loved project management work because I can use my excellent organizational and technological skills to make sure that all the moving parts of a project sync. During my 7 year career break, I became a trustee for my local public library and chaired our technology committee so I’ve been able to continue to use and hone those skills. Also, I was a four year DI college athlete, and when I worked at Rose & Whitney as a project manager, I was consistently recognized for my strong team orientation, and how I coordinated and communicated well with all team members, regardless of seniority.
- Relauncher Status. It may be okay in some circumstances to explain that you’re exploring, researching or considering more than one relaunch career path. Usually, this will likely be in a social or casual situation or in informational interviews, but not in job interviews. An example of how to explain your ‘undecided’ status as part of a TMAY response to a networking or social contact who might be able to help you is:
I’m a relauncher and before my 10 year career break, I practiced as a health law attorney at a large law firm for 5 years. I’m planning to return to work as a practicing attorney. I’m currently exploring either a path to a hospital legal department position or practicing elder law at a small firm. I’ve always been interested in health care and was pre-med in college. I became interested in elder law when I helped my parents navigate some challenging long term care, Medicare and estate planning issues.
- No Chronologies. Your response to TMAY should never be a chronological story that starts with where you were born or what you did after grad school. Instead, it should highlight who you are now and what your strengths, ‘value adds’ and/or career relaunch plans are.
- Mind the Time. Your TMAY response should be between 30 seconds and 90 seconds long -- at the most. You’ll lose your listener’s interest and attention after that.
- Fluid Not Static. Your TMAY response will change over time, as your goals and targets do. Check in on your TMAY response periodically to be sure that it’s still doing the job of conveying an accurate picture of you.
3. Practice Delivering with Confidence. Your listener in some cases may remember how you delivered your TMAY response more than what you’ve actually said! Practice with a friend, in front of a mirror and/or with the recording feature on your phone. If you’re not feeling particularly confident about your TMAY response at first, pretend! With repeated delivery, you’ll get better.
Many job searchers and relaunchers flounder when asked to tell about themselves. By nailing this question and making it a positive part of how you market yourself, you’ll become more memorable and compelling as a relaunch candidate.